Be Courageous in Your Fight!

“We all have experienced some kind of fear, but courage is when you don’t allow your fears to consume you. “ Cha Jones

We all have something in life that we are fighting for or with to become who we really desire to be. It is important that we understand that we must have the courage to continue pushing forward even when there are moments that we are faced with disappointments, devastation, and things like fear. All of these things can prevent you from winning the fight, but with courage and the ability to believe that you have in you all that you need, you can and will win.

I have plenty of fears and I have found myself doubting the process at times, but I am thankful that I have never allowed my fears to prevent me from moving forward. Sometimes you have to want to win so bad that even in your fears you decide that losing or failure is not an option. I learned early in life that being consumed my fear was not something I was willing to allow to happen. So, even when fears present themselves in my life I courageously put on my armor and go to battle for what I desire. I know that if I stand in fear I will never be able to move beyond where I am, but if I acknowledge my fears I will be able to go to places I have never been before. Fears keep us in bondage, bound to situations and things that will prevent us from becoming our true person. Freedom and courage allow us to live and flourish in life and it gives us the ability to truly be who we were placed on this Earth to become.

Fear is normal, but it is when you allow fear to consume you that you begin to doubt who you know you are.   If you were placed here to speak to people, but you have a fear of speaking, then the only way to become a speaker is to overcome your fear. If you were placed here to be a sales person, then you will have to overcome any fear of rejection and know that after a number of no’s you will eventually get a yes. Everyone has something that they fear for one reason or another, but if you find the courage to battle your fears you will WIN. You were born to be a success and to move beyond the things that have prevented you from being GREAT.  Anytime you decide that you no longer want to be a victim to your fears you have become a champion in the journey to greatness. That’s Gurl Knowledge!

by Cha Jones

Bridging the Gap

“Always remember where you came from, and if you are smart, as you blaze a trail into the future you will build a bridge for others to cross over as well.” ~ Cha Jones

Today, I began to think about my life and how I have been at the forefront of change in many situations. I have often been the first to accomplish things, and as rewarding as that may be at times, it can also be equally challenging. It is very rewarding to know that you are doing something that hasn’t been done, but it is also challenging when you have no point of reference. When you walk alone it is easy to give up, but when have a squad of cheerleaders that are rooting for you to do bigger and better things, it gives you inspiration to move forward when you feel like retiring your disposition. I know all too well how it is to experience being a lost soul in a forest of uncertainty. However, I can’t help but to understand that my going alone sometimes builds the bridge of change for not only me, but for so many more to come.

As I drove today, I began to assess those times when I felt that I was alone, and I thought about all the times I thought, “If I could just get there how extremely happy I would be.” However, just crossing over isn’t the answer. If I cross and fail to build a bridge, the once lonely road becomes even lonelier, because I now can’t share my accomplishments. The selfish part me says that I am only responsible for laying the path, but the responsible teacher in me says that I must build a bridge. Now, what does building a bridge actually mean? To me building a bridge means that I leave a way for everyone that must follow me to travel. I don’t have to go back and get anyone, but I believe I’m accountable as the first to travel across unfamiliar waters, to not make it easy, but to make it possible for those who follow me.

It is important that as you blaze the trail to new places that you remember that success is not measured by what you do, but rather how you do what you do, and what you do with it once you’re done.  There are plenty of successful people who have changed the way things will forever be, but if they fail to bridge that gap between what was and what is, then all they have done was in vain. True pioneers are those who cross the rivers of change and leave a legacy that empowers those who travel in the distance to continue on way after they have come. I challenge you to be a trail blazer and to travel unknown territories. However, in doing so, know that if others cannot not follow you, then you aren’t leaving a legacy; you’re just developing a path. That’s Gurl Knowledge!

©2010, Cha Jones

Your Attitude Empowers Your Possibilities

“With the right attitude you can do the impossible, but with the wrong attitude you will find yourself struggling alone.” ~Cha Jones

When I think about the above quote I think about how people pick and choose their battles. Things that are very simple can seem very difficult when you face them with the incorrect attitude. At this moment what comes to mind are the people who call themselves waking up on the “wrong” side of the bed. You know the people who always look at life from half empty glasses wondering why yours happens to be full. Those are the people that find themselves alone, but want to always invite you to join in on their misery.

When you adjust your thinking about anything you will adjust how much or how little you struggle.  I have a friend that once said to me, “You can’t see the goal, if you take your eyes off the obstacles.”  How real? When you only think about what you don’t have, you leave little room to think about what you do have that can assist you in getting where you would like to be. Change your attitude and look at all the possibilities in your life, situation, and circumstance and the possibilities will start presenting themselves.

If you are one of those people who found yourself getting out of bed on the wrong side this morning or if you find you wake up over there often, then I suggest you look around you and see how your attitude limits you. Most people like being with like minded people, so even if you are not alone due to your attitude you may be surrounded by other naysayers, which is just as lonely. Be empowered to think differently and change your attitude where you visualize the possibilities in all that life has to offer. That’s Gurl Knowledge!

Find Something to Adore, and Find Change...

“Sometimes things don’t go your way, but if you find something to adore in every moment you will soon see how adorable life is”. ~Cha Jones

To adore something means to delight in it. What do you adore at this very moment? Has something interrupted your state of happiness? If, so then the best way to get back to a state in which you can be delightful is finding the things that make you smile. We all have moments where the world seems to be against us or there have even been people who have stepped into our personal spaces and attempted to disrupt our happiness. However, when we find things that we can appreciate during the most trying times, those things make everything simpler.

You are adorable and no matter what you go through in life. Situations don’t change the fact that you are an adorable person. Maybe this has been a very challenging day, maybe you cannot see the sun for the clouds make everything gloomy, or maybe any and everything that could go wrong has. Honestly none of the matters because it is not what you dislike about what is happening that changes how you perceive things. It is more about what you like that allows for change to be possible. Now, it is important that you understand what you don’t like and what makes you feel bad, but it is the desire to find the delightfulness in what you really want that allows for change to be possible. So, even when things seem like they will never change I challenge you to look at those things with a smile, and then find the things you adore about where you are and what you are doing. I promise that you will eventually see change. That’s Gurl Knowledge!

You're Adorable As You Are

“It is better to be adored for being who you truly are, 

than adored for who you are not.” ~ Cha Jones

We all have a desire to be adored, but it is only when we are authentic in our actions that someone can truly find us adorable. It is easy to act like something we are not, but when we do so, others cannot see us for who we really are. When this happens we keep our true self hidden from the world.

Let people see you for who you are. You don’t have to be something that you are not for the sake of being accepted. If people accept you when you become someone other than your authentic self, they have accepted a lie. Your truth is much better told than hidden within a lie. You are beautiful, talented, and intelligent as you are, not being who or what someone else wants you to be. If you hide who you are you deny the world from knowing one of God’s greatest creations ~you.

It is easy to think that others won’t understand your situation or circumstances, but to be untruthful for the sake of pleasing others makes you a coward. It not only makes you a coward, but you give your true power away trying to fit into place that is not big enough to accept you in the first place. We all want to be accepted, but allow others to accept you based on who you truly are and not on a false idea of who they think you are. You are powerful in truth. You are beautiful in your own skin. You are amazing when you make others acknowledge you for who you are. You are adorable because you have allowed others to adore you in your own glory. That’s Gurl Knowledge!!

Cha Jones, 09/28/2010